Date A Lesbian Adventurer

UPDATE (04/26/18): Recently started dating someone.  If you're interested in being featured on the website, please reach out via the contact form.  It's time to spread the love.

Hi there! I'm Heather.  I'm a lesbian who adventures.  Seeking a woman who also adventures.

 Photo Credit:  Heaven McArthur

Photo Credit: Heaven McArthur

About Me:

 Photo Credit:  Heaven McArthur

Photo Credit: Heaven McArthur

Stuff you want to know:

Status: Single

Orientation: Homosexual, monogamous, lady-loving-lady, super lesbian, some would say soft butch.

Age: 44

Height: 5′4″ 

Body Type:  A little extra around the edges, but active.

Diet: Omnivore, but I enjoy a good vegan or gluten-free meal. 

Drugs: Recently tried pot for the first time.  Not sure about it.  Have you seen "Locked Up Abroad"?!

Smokes: Not really. Maybe a cigar once in a blue moon.

Drinks: Socially.  I like whiskey, cider, red wine and non-hoppy beer.

Religion: Roman Catholic.  And yeah, I like Jesus (though I drink a little)

Sign: Pisces (I was told this is important with lesbians)

Job: Technology / Internet Startup (kinda)

Offspring: None.  Open to the possibility of procreation, though at my age, I would not be the bearer of a tiny human.

Speaks:  English (Fluently), Spanish (enough to get me in trouble) and I know how to say "please" and "thank you" in probably ten other languages.

Other things you want to know:

  • Travel (I love it so much!)
  • Humanitarian work
  • Social justice (women's rights, LGBT rights, and racial justice)
  • Making a difference in the world
  • Solving problems using computers
  • Ice cream
  • Photography (concert and travel mostly)
  • Hiking & Backpacking in the wilderness
  • Being vulnerable & combatting shame
  • Living an authentic & honest life
  • Radical candor & resiliency
  • Being a better version of myself daily
  • Live music, mostly singer-songwriters
  • Brandi Carlile (68 concerts and counting)
  • Good food
  • Delicious coffee
  • My friends are kind, compassionate and making a difference


 Photo Credit:  Heaven McArthur

Photo Credit: Heaven McArthur

What I am doing with my life

I have spent a considerable amount of time over the past few years working on me and becoming the best version of myself.  I am ready to be in a relationship with an equally amazing woman who has done the work and has their sh** together.

I currently work for a tech company in Portland, OR.  Previously, I spent 14 years working as an Emergency Department Technician and a Medical Assistant.  I realized working in healthcare was destroying my soul, so I took a risk and left my comfort zone to work in tech.  I do not regret it for a moment.  

In my free time, I enjoy traveling, hiking and backpacking. I have walked the Camino de Santiago twice (Camino Frances and Camino Portuguese). I rode a 1980 P200 Vespa motorscooter across the United States once. I have a love affair with Nepal. I love to dogsit and have a lot of photos of other people's pups.

Locally, in Portland, I enjoy exploring coffee shops, food carts, seeing live music, and hanging out with friends.

At this point in time, I would prefer to date someone local, or in the PNW region.  It's possible I could relocate for the right person, however my job is pretty sweet right now and I don't have plans to move for another couple of years.  I do have every intention of leaving Oregon in about two years though, so who knows, maybe I could end up in your neck of the woods!

My ultimate dream is to live overseas.

    What I am looking for in a woman

    Well, this is certainly a loaded question.  Here are a few things I am looking for.  This list is a starting point.  And somewhat generalized.

    • Be kind
    • Be passionate about what you are doing with your life
    • Be emotionally intelligent
    • Be curious
    • Sense of humor is absolutely necessary
    • Enjoy a good adventure
    • Good communicator (DO NOT ASSUME...ask questions!)
    • Live a life with integrity, honor and dignity
    • Drama-free
    • Have a passport with Global Entry (a girl can dream!)
    • Being religious is not required, but I'd love to have someone to chat about theology and stuff
    • Identify as lesbian or bisexual
    • I tend to be attracted to low maintenance femmes.  If you can wake up, shower and be ready to go, you are my dream woman.
    • Have your sh** together.  Gainfully employed, emotionally available, ready to be in a relationship
    • Prefer women over the age of 35 and under 46, I am not able to be anyone's sugar mama!

    Testimonials (from people who know and love me)

    I’ve known Heather for over 20 years. She is one of the most authentic people I know. She is mature, self-aware and woke. She communicates openly and definitely walks the talk. She doesn’t dish out drama and bullshit so she deserves the same in whomever loves her. She’s been a great friend to me and so many others. She’s a fun person to know and I know she will find the love of her life, that someone special who makes her toes curl.
    — Courtney
    Authentic, direct, smart, with a huge heart. Heather is the kind of human striving to make a difference in this world. You’ll have to share her with many but just think of all the wonderful souls you will have in your life.
    — Annette
    Heather is my most trusted outdoor expert for the Pacific Northwest. I would (and have!) trust her with my life out in the wilderness. This gal is also one of the kindest souls I know, should you ever be so lucky to meet her, do it!
    — Kalong
    Heather is so fucking awesome
    — Roberto
    She has good taste in music
    — Janet
    Heather is a total badass. You are missing out if you don’t date her!
    — Jenni
    Heather is so awesome, I was ready to come out as a lesbian looking for love. The crazy part is that I am a straight, married male.
    — James
    Loyal and loves dogs!
    — Brooke
    10-years ago we rode our 150cc scooters to Canada and back. I think she’s done a lot crazier stuff since then.
    — MJ
    Heather is the kind of woman who makes me wish I were a lesbian.
    — Nancy
    Beautiful and woke AF.
    — Jeff
    I think Heather is a fantastic human being. I feel blessed to have met her.
    — Jose
    Heather says what she believes and believes what she says with all her heart and soul. She’s taught me more than she knows.
    — Shannon
    Heather takes care of you and makes sure you’re ok even though you just met.
    — Hannah
    Heather is easy to talk to and fun to get to know. She is open minded and basically a great human being.
    — Tara
    Heather once had a good time in Texas.
    — Sarah
    You need to date this awesome chick or I will fucking cut you..... and she’s rad...and has interests that are interesting....
    — Mikhail know...I love this woman. If I were not still so passionate about Viggo Mortensen and Jason Monoa I might give Heather a go.
    — Tracy
    You will never not know where you stand. She shares her true thoughts, beliefs and opinions with the world. She is true and authentic and truly listens. Is real. A go getter. Decent, Funny, outgoing, kind, gentle, caring and adventurous. Sadly masculine off center, which is what I am and she possesses all qualities I want in a partner.
    — Danielle

    Intrigued?  Interested in learning more?  Hit me up via this contact form and let's see what happens!

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    Where You Can Find Me

    I have some trips planned in the coming months.  If you live in one of these places, maybe we can grab coffee or a drink.  Even if I am dating someone, I love meeting new people and would welcome the opportunity to hear people's stories.

    • May 2018: Home in Portland, OR for the most part.  I do have plans to go backpacking or camping over Memorial Day Weekend.  Location TBD.
    • June 6-12, 2018: Road trip to Pismo Beach, CA for the West Coast Connection, a social gathering of Queer Christians.
    • July 4-9, 2018: Family trip to Alaska.  Location TBD.

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